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Caring For Hospice Patients With Dementia

One woman's daughter calls it 'a very helpless feeling'


Part of the Alzheimer’s & Dementia: Personal Stories, Research, Advice Special Report

(This article appeared previously on Kaiser Health News.)

Dementia took over Pauline Finster’s 91-year-old mind long ago, and she may die without having another real conversation with her daughter.

After Finster broke her hip in July 2015, Jackie Mantua noticed her mother’s speech ebbing until she only said “hi,” or that she felt fine. Mantua last heard Finster speak six months ago.

Finster’s hip surgery led to a series of medical interventions that left her with poor circulation in her legs. Then gangrene set in. Mantua won’t look at the dead tissue on her mother’s right foot that is now creeping from the toes to heel.

Caregivers who took part in the study worried that their loved ones were in pain but unable to express it.

She has instructed the staff at the AlfredHouse assisted living home in Rockville, Md., where her mother has been in hospice care since earlier this summer, to keep Finster on Tylenol to stave off discomfort.

Is that enough? It’s really all she can do for her mother at this point, Mantua said.

When They Can’t Communicate

The purpose of hospice, or at least one of them, is to ease a dying patient’s pain and maximize quality of life. But what’s to be done when a dementia patient in her waning days can’t communicate her pain or help identify the cause? Or if she resists taking medications?

All those concerns can be troubling for family caregivers of loved ones with dementia and in hospice, according to a recent study in the American Journal of Alzheimer’s Disease & Other Dementias.

Families often describe a cancer patient’s last months as stressful but meaningful. That isn’t the case with dementia patients, because the disease changes the patient’s personality and causes behavior issues, according to George Demiris, one of the study’s authors and a professor of biobehavioral nursing and health systems at the University of Washington’s School of Nursing.

Caregivers who took part in the study said they worried that their loved ones were in pain but unable to express it, according to interviews with families.

Many participants described feeling frustrated and defeated by patients’ cognitive difficulties and changing emotions. Some described the patients as “prisoners” inside their bodies.

Professionals Also Struggle

Helping a dementia patient in pain can be challenging for hospice care providers, too.

Previous research, cited in the recent study, found patients with dementia were prescribed lower doses of opioids than patients with cancer with similar pain scores.

Other research found that hospice nurses caring for such patients frequently asked relatives to interpret patients’ “pain signals” to help them assess its severity. One caregiver knew her mother was in pain when she moved a certain way in her chair. Another recognized it in the way his wife squeezed the hand of a home health care aide during a bath. Sometimes, patients gasp for air or repeatedly touch the same part of their bodies.

Mantua said she watches her mother’s face for winces or grimaces. Her face is still expressive, Mantua said, and still moans, though she can’t speak.

Recently, Mantua said her mother has been acting “strange.” Instead of her usual vacant but happy smile, Finster looked at her daughter with a “horrified” expression. Mantua told the hospice chaplain that it looked like her mother had seen the devil.

The cause?

“You have no idea because she can’t say anything,” Mantua said. “I was saying ‘What’s wrong? What’s wrong?’ and she’s just looking at me like crazy.”

A Long, Difficult Road

Finster has had dementia for 10 years. She has moved during that time from an independent living facility to assisted living to memory care.

Three or four years ago, when Finster still  had a phone in her room, she sometimes called her son Les — Mantua’s older brother — 10 times to leave him the same message that people were coming into her room and stealing her food. She simply forgot that she had called before.

Finster’s years of cognitive decline have taken a toll on Mantua and her family.

“You get to the point you want them to die because it’s hard,” Mantua said. “It’s hard to deal with. It’s a very helpless feeling.”

Mantua, 53, has three children between the ages of 27 and 31 and is grandmother to twin five-year-old boys. She said she doesn’t have the patience or natural caregiving abilities to tend to her mother full time.

It comforts her to know that her mother is looked after by a trained staff, 24 hours a day. But for families who are the primary caregivers for dying dementia patients, the job can lead to anxiety, depression and grief, according to the recent study.

“Caregivers stated that patients were combative because they could not understand that interventions were meant to help them, or that they forgot about past pain and so rejected attempts at assessment and treatment,” the study said.

‘Like a Stranger’

For families, a loved one with dementia can become like a stranger, angrier and more aggressive than the person they remembered. That “complicates the caregiving experience,” Demiris said,

Mantua remembers when Finster’s dementia made her paranoid and angry. She was once so combative, the staff at her former assisted living facility wouldn’t try to feed her unless Mantua or her brother were present.

The decision to begin hospice care wasn’t easy for Mantua or her family. She said it feels like her mother is already gone.

There isn’t much for Mantua to do when she visits her mother at AlfredHouse. She chatters as Finster dozes, cradling a baby doll that is always with her. Someone at the assisted living home regularly changes the doll’s clothes, which amuses Mantua.

Once every other week, she drives an hour from her home on Maryland’s Eastern Shore to Finster’s room in Rockville, and they wait for the end together.

This story was produced by Kaiser Health News, an editorially independent program of the Kaiser Family Foundation.

 

By Rachel Bluth
Rachel Bluth recently earned her master’s from the Philip Merrill College of Journalism at the University of Maryland. At Merrill, she reported on health disparities in Baltimore, and her work was published on npr.org and pbs.org. She was previously the lead political correspondent for the Annapolis Bureau of Capital News Service, where she covered the Maryland General Assembly and Gov. Larry Hogan. She has also written for the Maryland Reporter and the Prince George’s Sentinel. She can be reached at [email protected].@RachelHBluth

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