Who the Happiest Retirees and Most Unhappy Retirees Are
The authors of two new books have the surprising results
If you're curious how to become one of the happiest retirees and how to avoid becoming one of the least happy retirees, I can offer some surprising guidance.
That's because of what I learned reading two excellent, new books about all this and talking to their authors for Next Avenue and the "Friends Talk Money" podcast I co-host. (You can hear the episode wherever you get podcasts or at the end of this article.) Hint: when it comes to happiness in retirement, it's not just about the money.
What the Happiest Retirees Know
Certified Financial Planner Wes Moss comes at this based on surveys he conducted with about 2,000 U.S. households who were retired or within 10 years of retiring for his book "What the Happiest Retirees Know: 10 Habits for a Healthy, Secure, and Joyful Life." He calls the happiest ones HROBS, for Happiest Retirees on the Block. Moss is a managing partner and chief investment strategist for Capital Investment Advisors in Atlanta.
"We hear curiosity killed the cat. A lack of curiosity kills the happy retiree, plain as simple."
Wealth adviser Tony Hixon, author of "Retirement Stepping Stones: Find Meaning, Live With Purpose and Leave a Legacy," has a more painful, personal perspective that made him overhaul his approach to financial planning and retirement planning. It came out of the tragic experience of his late mother's retirement (more on that shortly). Hixon is a co-founder and chief operating officer of Hixon Zuercher Capital Management in Findlay, Ohio.
Incidentally, neither Moss nor Hixon view retirement as necessarily the traditional stop-working-altogether idea. To them, and to many others, retirement is now whatever way you define it — which could mean working part-time when you want, as much as you want, or volunteering or not working at all.
Moss' survey found there were three important financial traits of the happiest retirees:
3 Financial Traits of the Happiest Retirees
No. 1: Having at least $500,000 in liquid assets (money in things you can sell quickly or easily such as bank accounts, stocks, bonds or mutual funds).
No. 2: Having your mortgage either paid off or an expectation that it'll be paid off within sight of when you're going to stop working.
No. 3: Having multiple streams of income; one of those could be part-time work.
Said Moss: "There's a real psychological benefit to a diversified income stream. If something happens to one of these income streams, I've got all the other ones to rely on. And that gives me real financial peace of mind."
My "Friends Talk Money" podcast co-host Pam Krueger, founder of the financial adviser vetting site Wealthramp, offered this view of those traits: "Those are three things that to me all spell one thing — I want to be able to live without worrying." But she takes issue with the $500,000 figure as "the number," saying "everybody's going to have their own number they get obsessed with."
"Those are three things that to me all spell one thing — I want to be able to live without worrying."
Our podcast co-host Terry Savage, a syndicated personal finance columnist and author, agreed with that assessment. "The specifics are going to be different for everyone," she said. Savage also noted that peace of mind in retirement is about "how you'll get through the bad times of a market crash or more inflation or the sad need for long-term care insurance." To Savage, "the contingencies" need to be part of your plan.
In his survey, Moss also learned there were a few very important habits shared by the happiest retirees that were not financial. Two of them are what he calls social connections and curiosity.
Social connections, Moss said, are about having a few people you feel comfortable with sharing your own bad news or good news. "I want people to think of this as a must, not a nice-to-have," Moss said. "It doesn't matter what we're going through as a nation, whether it's a pandemic, a war or a natural disaster, we have to have the social connections."
Curiosity, Core Pursuits and Happiness in Retirement
As for curiosity, Moss said: "We hear curiosity killed the cat. A lack of curiosity kills the happy retiree, plain as simple." The happiest retirees, he learned, were very curious about finding new core pursuits or what Moss calls "hobbies on steroids." The average number of core pursuits of the happiest retirees, Moss discovered: four.
Noted Moss: "Not only do they find new ones, but they also want to get better at the ones they currently have. So, they dive deeper into them."
On his website, Wesmoss.com, you can take a free core pursuits quiz to see which types of pursuits you might want to explore in retirement. I did and learned that part-time work was the core pursuit I should explore. Savage said one of her core pursuits is helping fund a horse rescue program.
Krueger strongly endorsed Moss' view of curiosity and core pursuits in retirement. "I see more vibrance among those who have tapped into something, whether it's out of curiosity or it's just out of love and passion," she said. "In some cases, it's stumbling into pursuits they didn't even realize would show up as opportunities."
Krueger pointed to a family member who is a retired widow and has gotten into yoga, as well as babysitting her grandkids. "She's got that nice — I hate to say it, it sounds corny but it's true — balance of different activities," Krueger noted.
Finding Meaning and Purpose in Retirement
The core pursuits idea dovetails into Hixon's view of a happy, rewarding retirement — something that, sadly, his mother Pam Hixon didn't have.
Hixon's mother was a hospice nurse; he describes that job as her calling. She was set financially for retirement. Problem was, she hadn't thought much about how she'd spend her time in retirement and find fulfillment like she had while working. That led to spiraling depression.
"She really began to lose her way," said Hixon. "And her decision to retire actually became her biggest regret. The main reason for that was because she just no longer really felt needed."
And, Hixon added, "she certainly knew what she was retiring from; didn't prepare enough for what she was retiring to." Ultimately, due to her depression, Pam Hixon took her life.
As a result, Hixon hired a life coach for his clients, alongside his firm's financial advisers, to help them view retirement planning more holistically. He now strongly believes you can avoid becoming one of the unhappiest retirees by finding meaning and living with purpose in retirement.
"It's not just about checking those quantitative boxes" about how much money you'll need for retirement, Hixon said. "It's about determining and doing the hard work of what's next." To Hixon, becoming a happy retiree isn't just about having enough money to sleep at night, "but enough purpose to get up in the morning."
His advice: "Identify your values, understanding what it is that you really do value that you want to continue" into retirement.
And, he said, "think about a Plan B in case retirement doesn't prove to be as meaningful or purposeful as you'd hoped." Your Plan B could be teaching students about the work you did in your career, for example.
Savage called finding meaning and living with purpose in retirement "a really profound and important point." I agree, and hope you do, too.