One of the biggest challenges for anyone administering an estate is how to distribute what are called its tangible items. Unlike other property which can be easily sold, turned into cash and divided equally, tangible property is unique and often can’t be equally split. Also, its value often can’t be measured by what it could be sold for; a family photo album may have no monetary value, for instance, but great sentimental significance.
So, what should you do if you’ve been given the task to be in charge of divvying up a family member’s estate and it includes assorted tangible items?
The way some families do it is by taking turns selecting which items each will keep, sometimes reversing the order at each round so whoever went first in the initial round won’t get an unfair advantage by going first in all rounds.
The family rejected the often typical system for disbursing tangible items of an estate where family members take turns choosing items.
But let me tell you about a clever way one family dealt with this problem. As an estate planning and probate attorney, I’ve worked with many families over the years. But I’ve never ran into the solution my college friend, Sue, described to me after her mother, Mary Jane, died, and the four children needed to divide things up.
Although Mary Jane’s estate was pretty grand, the method the family used to divvy up the tangible items could be one that other families with much smaller ones could try.
724 Items, Not Counting Linens or Jewelry
After Mary Jane’s death earlier at 93, the executors — Sue and her brother Bruce — created an inventory of the 724 items in her estate that had monetary or sentimental value. (Those are their real first names, but I’m not including their last names to preserve anonymity.) These included furniture, artwork, oriental rugs, cutlery, china, furs, games, a piano and a car.
They didn’t include Mary Jane’s jewelry, books or linens, nor her silver, gold and collectible coins. The four siblings agreed to sell the coins and to deal with the many books, linens and jewelry in a more informal manner after the more significant items had been distributed.
Mary Jane, who the family called “Oma,” and her deceased husband, had received many of the 724 items at their big society wedding in Omaha, Neb., in 1947; purchased others during their long, married life and had inherited others. Many of the inherited items included antiques and boxes from Mary Jane’s mother that had remained in the attic since her mom’s death.
The family rejected the often typical system for disbursing tangible items of an estate where family members take turns choosing items. With over 700 items, this process could take a long time. And, based on their research, they felt that system wouldn’t maximize the value received by the four children and seven grandchildren.
The Family’s Five-Step Process
Instead, their process for dividing up the intangible items followed five steps:
- Sue and Bruce circulated the inventory to all four siblings and asked each to indicate which items they were interested in. This resulted in dividing the items into three groups: (a) those in which no one had any interest; (b) those in which only one person had an interest and (c) those in which two or more were interested. The ones where no one had an interest were set aside to be sold or given away. Those who were fortunate to be the only siblings wanting certain items got them.
- Then, Sue and Bruce prepared several lists of items in which more than one sibling expressed an interest. Each received a list of those. They were not given information on items in which they weren’t interested; this was one of two ways the system was not transparent.
- Each sibling was then provided with 500 virtual poker chips which he or she could use to bid for contested items. However, before the deadline for bidding, the siblings could talk with one another about their intentions. It turned out that many had bid for several similar items — such as family pictures, bookcases and oriental rugs — when they really only wanted one from each category. So, they agreed among themselves who would receive each one without wasting a lot of chips. Such consultation also avoided two people bidding a lot of tokens for a particular item and no one bidding on another similar one.
- After the bids were in, Sue and Bruce let everyone know what they had won, without revealing the bids. So, this was not like a silent auction or eBay where bidders can see what others are bidding and readjust their bids up to the deadline. This was the second aspect of the system that was not transparent.
- Finally, once all the allocations were determined, Sue and Bruce added up the monetary value of all the items and readjusted the estate monetary distributions to ensure that everyone came out at the same place financially. The most valuable items were a 1919 Steinway drawing room grand piano valued at $25,000; a 2005 Toyota Camry valued at $4,500 and several oriental rugs together valued at $13,975. The recipients of these, in effect, had to pay their siblings something for them, with a total of $17,500 trading hands.
This was a time-consuming process, taking about three months. “It’s a good thing I’m retired,” Sue said, “and that I have a tolerance for detail and my siblings’ trust, which has turned out at certain moments to be very important.”
How did it work out?
The siblings felt their system was very fair and the process, unlike what I’ve seen in some other family estates, not only relieved tensions, it brought Mary Jane’s sons and daughters closer together. The adult heirs were also brought closer by spending time together packing items and getting Oma’s condo ready for sale.
Said Martha: “Our parents always encouraged us to treat each other well and not be horrible.”
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